Crying.
Laying in bed, next to a very tired husband.
Pain.
Will it ever end ?
What am I doing wrong?
Or am I doing the right things, but I'm graced with pain for this life.
I wish I could have in interview with God tonight. I would ask for strength to get thru this. I would ask if I was doing the right or wrong things....especially pain killers. Yes, I have no name for my poor health. But I have no reason to have such bad pain. My intuition tells me that if I did the right tests or saw the right specialists I would be diagnosed with an auto-immune disease...RA, MS, Fibromyalgia or Lupus. I already have Hashimotos autoimmune thyroid and an autoimmune ovarian condition that causes me to stop producing hormones at times. Once you have one autoimmune condition, your chances of developing another one are very high.
But right now, my bad health can be counted on to flair up after child birth. My extended family will probably cheer when they read that my docs say no more babies. One says she'll quit if I get pregnant again. Another one says I'll never recover again and need replacement hormones THE REST of my life.
But none of that matters right now, as I lay in bed tonight, crying and so uncertain for the future. Grant wants me to stop and think of what good this time will bring. So I'm using a tiny PDA to tap out my feelings.
WHAT GOOD COULD COME OF THIS
1. We're helping the economy my paying for extra in home workers
2.I'm keeping my husband from being a workaholic.
3. We are closer together to a unified view of our oldests son's issues and more unified on the solution to them.
4. My prioritization skills are much better than they used to be.
5. Because of the above our marriage is stronger since i no longer drive Grant crazy with my important tasks that he sees as fluff no one will notice.
6. We've stopped waiting for tomorrow or a better time to have dinner guests and play dates. We've had more people over since I've been sick that in all the healthy years past. Friends are another great narcotic to me!
7. I'm staying more current with computer trends...even though its blogspot and not windows live (much to Grant's dismay)
8. The content of my next meal finally isn't the center of my world.
9. I'm aware of different things about my kids than if i had been the typical housewife.
10. I can handle more pain than i imagined and still be thrilled by e baby's small emotions and a big kids art project or finished book or playground squabble.
11. I can still go fun places with my kids and experience new things together. It's just thru the Internet and youtube videos instead of zoo trips and sack lunches
12. 7 and 9 year olds can do laundry. They can sort it by reading tags and they can move it from was to dryer to basket to drawers.
13. I'm becoming more like my personal heroes. Clair Wood, Deb Whitmore, Ann e K, Holly Overbaugh, Tammy Risenmay to name a few. I really wish I could be like them without pain of this intensity and duration. But that is what built them.
There are so many fears i have that won't do good to dwell on. But they are dark and huge and so real. They would seem so powerful that death would be a welcomed exchange. I fear so much doing the wrong and making this worse than it needs to be. Even now I write for the world instead of praying for peace. I do talk with God....but its more in a begging form of surrender than a reverent prayer.
1. We're helping the economy my paying for extra in home workers
2.I'm keeping my husband from being a workaholic.
3. We are closer together to a unified view of our oldests son's issues and more unified on the solution to them.
4. My prioritization skills are much better than they used to be.
5. Because of the above our marriage is stronger since i no longer drive Grant crazy with my important tasks that he sees as fluff no one will notice.
6. We've stopped waiting for tomorrow or a better time to have dinner guests and play dates. We've had more people over since I've been sick that in all the healthy years past. Friends are another great narcotic to me!
7. I'm staying more current with computer trends...even though its blogspot and not windows live (much to Grant's dismay)
8. The content of my next meal finally isn't the center of my world.
9. I'm aware of different things about my kids than if i had been the typical housewife.
10. I can handle more pain than i imagined and still be thrilled by e baby's small emotions and a big kids art project or finished book or playground squabble.
11. I can still go fun places with my kids and experience new things together. It's just thru the Internet and youtube videos instead of zoo trips and sack lunches
12. 7 and 9 year olds can do laundry. They can sort it by reading tags and they can move it from was to dryer to basket to drawers.
13. I'm becoming more like my personal heroes. Clair Wood, Deb Whitmore, Ann e K, Holly Overbaugh, Tammy Risenmay to name a few. I really wish I could be like them without pain of this intensity and duration. But that is what built them.
There are so many fears i have that won't do good to dwell on. But they are dark and huge and so real. They would seem so powerful that death would be a welcomed exchange. I fear so much doing the wrong and making this worse than it needs to be. Even now I write for the world instead of praying for peace. I do talk with God....but its more in a begging form of surrender than a reverent prayer.
Ahh...peace...the meds have hit my blood and I'm getting relief and sleep is near. I don't care how I got here anymore. I'll let the doctors worry instead. At least for tonight.
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